Everyone knows that divorce can be hard, and that it usually is. No one really ever wants to go through divorce, but unfortunately many couples do. However, like anything else in life, divorce can be what you make it. In other words, if you choose to make things difficult then your divorce will be difficult. If you choose to have a positive attitude and avoid confrontation then chances are your divorce will go smoother. Even if your estranged spouse chooses to make things difficult, you can still take a positive approach.
So what are some of the things you can do to help reduce the stresses of divorce? Each married couple and each individual divorce in is different. Therefore, what works for some people will not work for others, and vise versa. However, there are a few small choices you can make to help make the process easier. The following are some helpful ideas that people who have been through divorce recently shared with the Huffington Post:
·Communicate with your ex without speaking – some former couples can’t even stand the thought of talking with their former mates. However communication is important, which is why using electronic options, such as email or texting can be a good idea.
·Support your children – make sure your children have all the support they need, including therapy or counseling if necessary.
·Avoid Confrontation – try not to argue with your spouse, especially in front of the children. Either walk away or leave the room if it looks like an argument is about to begin.
·Rename your spouse – while some couples refer to their former spouse by derogatory names, this actually refers to a small but significant change regarding your phone if you have dependent children. One divorced mother noted that by changing her ex’s contact name to “co-parent” on her phone it immediately changed the dynamic of their relationship. She noted that their weekly meetings were much less emotional and it served as a reminder that they needed to work together for their children.
These are just a few of the many things you can do to reduce the level of stress in divorce. Ultimately, you can’t control what your former spouse does, but you can control how you act and how you respond to his or her actions. By avoiding contention and focusing on the positive things, you can help reduce the amount of stress ad anxiety you have to deal with. At the Law Office of Michael A. Robbins, we know that divorce is not easy and that you will need all the help and support you can get. Pease contact our offices today at 248-646-7980 for divorce help in Michigan. You can also reach us online by clicking here.